A divorce is difficult for families. Recently, parents have considered nesting to eliminate some of the stress and to reduce some child custody issues. Instead of living in separate residences, parents keep their children in the family home and take turns living with them.
Nesting is intended to reduce disruption for the children by allowing them to continue to live in their home. Many experts argue that this plan is effective for a short transition period for three to six months or for another specific period, such as the remainder of the child’s school year. Longer periods may deceive the children into believing that their parents are considering reconciliation.
Nesting also allows the children to stay in the same school, keep their friends and continue their social lives. They do not have to keep taking their belongings back and forth to their separate parents’ homes.
There are opponents to this idea, however. Some experts argue that children will hang onto hopes that their parents will get back together, even if nesting is for a short time. They may have happy memories of their time in the house, which may dissolve when they stay there after their parents split up.
In any case, this plan is probably not feasible if the parents did not have a relatively amicable divorce. This arrangement can also cause more conflicts if the parents do not cooperate. Failure to replace groceries, not completing errands, or having a significant other spend the night are among the issues that can cause disputes.
Having enough financial resources is also essential. Parents must have enough money to perform upkeep on their home. Many parents also pay for an additional apartment where they live on a rotating basis when they are not residing in the family home.
Parents should seek legal assistance to help deal with custody issues. An attorney can help explore nesting and other reasonable options that protect the best interests of the child.